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I have been reading Anna Karenina the past few weeks, and two of the main characters in the book commit adultery. I've been thinking about why someone would do this and I've come up with two conclusions (though there are probably more.) First, the person is not completely committed to their spouse. When you're not completely committed to something, your mind wanders and thinks of, then dwells on other possibilities. One of these possibilities for a married person is to have a secret affair. The second conclusion I've come up with is the reason why Anna became unfaithful. It is that they don't love their spouse. It takes hard work to stay in love with your spouse for your whole life. When that work isn't done, it is very easy to become infatuated with someone else and fall (as is Anna's case.)

While writing my last blog, I thought of a relative question: is it mostly good or mostly bad to get more, easier, due to physical attractiveness? From my own personal experience, I have found it mostly bad. Because these people get more for less effort, extra effort is not put forth. Thus, they don't get the most out of life or become what they could. I have realized this in myself. I have never been one that people come to because of my looks. I learned early on that while others can do nothing and people will come up to them, I had to reach out. This is largely, I think, a bi-product of my smallish size. But it has been so go for me. I have made many friends and learned how to go out of my comfort zone. I hardly have a comfort zone now. People who attract others because of their good looks don't have to work to develop a personality to match. What I lack in looks, I make up for in personality. I can now talk to everyone a hot guy or girl does, plus some, because of my personality. My personality now attracts people. So basically, attractive people that haven't worked to develop themselves are missing out!

Why do good-looking people get things more easily? As an extremely judgmental society, when we are pleased to look at someone we subconsciously want to be pleased with their personality. Likewise, for some reason we don't have that same assumption for a more homely person. We expect the inside to be as dull as the out. If you go to a restaurant and do a survey, better-looking waiters or waitresses will on average make more than those that aren't so good-looking. Due to the above connection, they are tipped higher even though the people they are serving don't completely know their personality. With more homely people, it takes time for them to prove that they are fun to be around. With attractive ones, it is assumed.